Son Turns 18: A Father’s Advice
My Dear Son,
You turn 18, and I am engulfed in a kaleidoscope of emotions. You will officially be an Adult. The World opens out for you with fabulous opportunities while you will also be enticed with equally powerful vices. What you choose and how you decide will take you to a place and position where you will live much of your life. I wish you will choose the right, and the best options.
Your Mother and I have tried to bring you up well with the right values. I want you to know that it was truly a pleasure to bring you up. You were one of the sweetest child, never troubled us, never asked for things unnecessarily, had less demands unlike children of your age, not fashion conscious, always understood the priorities of the family, kind hearted, who always stood for your friends, a good student to your teachers, and a good son to us.
As you turn 18, I would like to you, go forth and blaze your trail. Do well in whatever you choose to do, Be the best, yet never burn yourself to do that. You may spend, and within limits, you may enjoy and even that has limits. Be balanced in Life, in relationships, in Work. Balance is the Key in life.
I would love you to do what you feel is good for you, your future. Remember, Money does buy you stuff, it may ease a lot of things in life, yet there are many things that Money can never get and that is True Friendship, True Love and a Loving Family. So invest in your Friends and Family. That will stand you in good stead under all circumstances. There may be times when you will have to choose between Money, Health and Family….always choose Health & Family, you will never regret, because Money can always be made.
Every action of yours, need not end in success. Never be too proud of what you achieve, and Never feel too sad about what you lost. Failures are great if we know how to Fail Forward. Learn from each action, improve and you will definitely succeed in your aim. In everything keep Human Beings a priority. Be a good human being. That is important as much as punctuality, discipline, loyalty, honesty, sincerity and all other values you have learnt.
I have attempted to translate for you, a poem in Malayalam, I received from an unknown author.. This encapsulates an advice I would love you to keep in mind
Whom should I become, asks my child, and I answer, whoever you become, Become Good
For that Flower, standing in the fiery hot afternoon sun, Be a cool hand, who can give succor to it;
For that Life, struggling for a drop of water, Be the Water, on its tongue;
For that Person, standing alone in danger, Be the Faith, who can guide him;
For the Earth, parched dry and cracked, Be the Rain, that will fill the Earth up;
For the Traveler, who is sun burnt and tired, Be the Shady Tree, where he can rest;
For the Student, struggling in the rain, Be an Umbrella, to keep his books dry;
For the Fisherman, lost in the deep sea, Be the Light house, which can guide him safely back ashore;
For the Calf, crying and searching in the crowd for its lost mother, Be a Mother;
For the Person, suffering from hunger, Be a handful of food;
For the Woman, needing security at night, Be a Brother;
For the Old man, shivering in the cold, Be a warm Blanket;
For the illiterate, looking for knowledge, Be a Teacher;
For the Sibling, who trips and falls, Be the support;
For your Parents, always be a good Child;
Whom should I become, asks my child, and I answer, whoever you become, Become Good!
Go forth my Son, and Be the Best in whatever you do. Be Good, Do Good! Our blessings remain with you always!
We love you!